Today she asked him to pick her up from the company to go to the party.
When couples are angry, they often say things that hurt the other person
She will immediately ask: `Why are you so late for your appointment?`
He scratched his head and explained, all with incomprehensible reasons, she knew he was just busy with work and forgot the appointment time.
She said angrily: `Why are you always late for such strange reasons?`
Words went back and forth, and finally he said: `Why don’t you ever think about my problem?`
His words made her even angrier, and in the end either they would both go to the party with a funeral face, or they would both go home.
In the above case, how should the couple handle it so that the conversation does not become tense?
Learn how to communicate when angry
Communication tip number 1: Avoid making assumptions
The above story is just an example that many couples often encounter.
However, dissatisfaction need not cause controversy.
“I only know how to do what I like”
“You always only care about yourself.”
“Why do you never change?”
So from one wrong action, we judge a whole person.
Communication secret #2: Criticism starts with praise
We choose to love someone because they make us feel happy, because they are good in many ways.
“Thank you for coming to pick me up.
He may never tell you the real reason he’s late, but he’ll understand how his lateness affects you.
Of course, it’s easy to say, but difficult to do.
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